James: What you end up doing is just developing good friendships

James, 59, lives in an all-male shelter. He’s single and here’s why.

There’s no private place… What you end up doing is just developing good friendships.
I think it would be good if they had relationship [discussion] groups in the shelter.
People will think, just because you’re in a shelter, you don’t have urges for intimacy, for love.
A lot of people could go back home… if they had the techniques to mend broken relationships.
[What] if they had a night when the two [men and women’s shelters] could come together? Maybe a dance?

Where will you be on Valentine’s Day?

I’ll be in New York City. I’m gonna treat myself.
When you’re not in a relationship it’s good to be good to yourself.

Are you looking for a special someone?

I’ve lost a lot of friends from HIV AIDS… I really should have been one of those that was infected.
What I’m trying to do now is stay HIV negative.
I haven’t had sex, and good sex, in three years. And you know, that’s a long time.
I’m looking for mind first.

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